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Sorry Seems to be the Hardest Word…

When us as adults  apologise, our children see this as us being fair and that we are trying to understand and listen to them.

When us as adults apologise, our children see this as us being fair and that we are trying to understand and listen to them.

By Anne Goldsmith, owner of Behaviour First Consultancy.

How many times do we ask our children to say they are sorry?  How many times do we ‘make’ children apologise for something they have said or done? But what about adults?

But it often comes out in an insincere way, doesn’t it? They don’t really mean it, because they have been told to say it.

As a parent and a teacher, I always ‘ask’ children to say sorry, although I insist on taking it a step further.  I ask children to be specific.  Saying sorry is easy and doesn’t really mean anything if it’s not linked to what you are sorry for.

When children are specific with their apology, they are actually thinking about what they have done and whether it was a good choice.

So, for example, “I’m sorry for hitting Billy with my pencil case.”

But what about adults? Should we apologise to our children when we get it wrong? Continue reading