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Growing apart – How to Help a Child Cope When Their Parents Divorce

Guest post by Amanda Seyderhelm

Divorce

Divorce

When parents separate and divorce, children experience this loss and change as a bereavement. Losing the constancy of the family home unit makes them mourn and long for it to be reconstituted because, as author Brené Brown says, “We are hardwired to connect with others, it’s what gives purpose and meaning to our lives, and without it there is suffering.

While it’s possible to maintain a connection throughout divorce, children need help to process the separation.” I’ve treated many children of divorced parents in my practice, and the one thing they have in common is a struggle to accept the loss of the family unit. While there may be good custody arrangements in place, the child still has to learn how to manage the transitions each time they leave one home to stay at the other. These are big losses for them to cope with emotionally. Continue reading

Super Charge your Arrival Home

Superhero

Superhero

Guest post by Dr Andy Cope

Being a parent isn’t the easiest job in the world but guess what, you don’t find that out until you actually are one!

Life can be full on and sometimes it’s just too easy to forget to make time for the things that really matter. Here are three things you can do every day that I promise will make a real difference to your family when you get home from work.

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Trying for Number 2

Dr Larisa Corda

Dr Larisa Corda

Guest post by Dr Larisa Corda

Secondary infertility is the most common type of infertility in women, yet many sufferers don’t seek out treatment. Fertility expert Dr. Larisa Corda, a regular on This Morning, explains more about the condition and what can be done about it.

Secondary infertility is defined as a problem with becoming pregnant after you have conceived at least once before. People often underestimate how common this actually is, especially after the age of 35 when natural fertility declines much more significantly. Aside from the effect of age and the impact this has on egg numbers and quality, secondary infertility may be due to the onset of new medical or gynaecological conditions, such as fibroids, or Asherman’s syndrome.  It could be that you suffer from endometriosis or PCOS and that these conditions have got worse.  Your lifestyle habits may have also have changed, your partner’s sperm may not quite be what it used to be, or you may have a new partner. Secondary infertility often has a lot of guilt associated with it. Many couples feel hesitant about seeking help and tend to delay, due to the worry of feeling judged by others if they already have a child, including their doctor. But if you suspect there’s a problem and you’ve been trying for a year if under 35, or 6 months if 35 or over, it’s vital you go and see your GP to start some initial investigations. These can include simple blood tests to look at hormone levels, as well as a semen analysis and pelvic ultrasound scan to look at the womb and ovaries. Sometimes further tests are undertaken that look at fallopian tubes as well.

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Review: Thumbs Up For Ted’s Thumbsie Book, worth £6.99

Thumbs Up For Ted's Thumbsie BookReview written by Toddle About VIP Club member, Nicky Baker.

I was personally unaware about Thumb Guards, however upon receiving the book to review, I felt that this was a nice way of discussing the issue with children.

The book is designed to help parents who are struggling with getting their children to stop with thumb or finger sucking. I liked the positive approach of the book and the areas and discussion covered, for example starting big school and the enjoyable activities to come with the transition. Continue reading

Review: Johnson’s® Strength Drops Haircare Bundle, worth £7.50

Johnson's Strength DropsReview written by Toddle About VIP Club member, Carrie Olech.

I have been using the Johnsons Strength Drops Shampoo, Conditioner and Spray on my little boys hair since receiving them to review, although I think the range is aimed at a slightly older child, I found it mild enough for my 16 month old. He has a lot of hair (3 haircuts already) so keeping it in good condition is important to me. We haven’t used a conditioner before; again, I think it’s probably designed for an older child, however I was impressed with how soft it made his hair. Continue reading

Why Will Making Is A ‘MUST’ For Your Loved Ones Sake…and Yours

Why Will Making Is A MustWritten by Tim Mullock from Adept Asset Solutions.

Hannah’s Story

Hannah was in shock. Alan, her father, had died just three weeks ago. He was in his early 70’s, and apparently healthy. With no warning, he’d suffered a fatal cardiac arrest. Naturally, Hannah, her siblings and relatives were devastated by the loss of this wonderful man. Their sense of grief was compounded by worry. For, in spite, of being nagged by his children, Alan had always put off writing a Will. ‘I’ll get round to it soon enough’, he’d laugh. ‘Are you lot trying to get rid of me?’

A large tax bill to pay

As Hannah was soon to discover, Alan’s cavalier neglect would turn out to be no laughing matter. His situation was far from straightforward. Continue reading

The Montessori Toddler: The 5 Ingredients For Building And Encouraging Curiosity

The Montessori ToddlerMontessori is an educational approach for young children that seeks to educate by developing natural interests and activities rather than using formal teaching methods. In her new book, The Montessori Toddler, author Simone Davies gives us a practical, step-by-step guide on how to raise self-sufficient, curious, independent toddlers while helping parents become more mindful, easy going and attentive.

Here are her Five Ingredients for Curiosity:

1. TRUST IN THE CHILD
Dr. Montessori encourages us to trust that the child wants to learn and grow, and that they intrinsically know what they need to do to develop. We can also trust them to learn the limits of their
bodies. They may have accidents while exploring the world around them but that is how they learn. We will be there if they want to be held. Are we constantly worrying about our child’s development or whether they will hurt themselves? Can we practice setting aside those worries about the future and enjoy where they are today? Continue reading

Splish Splosh! How Child’s Play Leads To Stronger Brains

Splish SploshWritten by Claire Stead, owner and creator of Oliiki.

Water and children, always a great combination! But is it just fun or is there more to a child having fun and splashing about?

From bath time to playing in the garden, paddling in a stream to swimming in it, children are fascinated by water and they love to play in it.

Water can be an amazing teacher – without your child even realising it, they could be carrying out a science experiment, working on numbers, developing an understanding of capacity, sorting, sharing out, developing language, gross and fine motor control skills, developing their senses all at an early age! So, what sort of games can you play with a bit of water and your little one?

A newborn: Using warm water and a sponge, trickle water on different parts of their body and look for their reaction. Talk about it, this is ‘serve and return’, a brilliant way to start getting them learning. Continue reading

Are Sleep Regressions A Myth?

Are Sleep Regressions A MythUnderstanding Sleep Regressions and how to handle them.

By Diane Pawsey, Family Sleep Consultant.

Children are constantly changing, growing and developing. Every child reaches milestones at different rates but when children are learning, their brains are processing a lot of new information.

Research has shown that when a baby has spent time developing a new skill during the day (such as crawling), their brain is still active when they go to bed. The part of the brain they have been using the most is still firing and lighting up like a firework display even after they go to sleep.

This can cause a child, who was previously settling quickly at night, to suddenly find it difficult to do so. They may refuse to nap, wake up shortly after falling asleep, resist falling asleep, wake up early, wake up but still appear tired or wake more at night.

This is known as a sleep regression. Continue reading

My 2 Mums – How Times Have Changed

My 2 MumsJesse Toksvig-Stewart talks about what it was like to grow up with gay parents.

I was chatting with my step sister recently. We were discussing all things about everyday life, catching up. She’s still at school and I asked her how everything was going. She announced to me that there was another child in the year below who had two mums. I was so pleased to hear that  she had an ally at school. This was something that I never had at all growing up.

It is not really that long ago that being a gay man was illegal in the UK. The de-criminalisation act of homosexuality was put forward 1967. It is so shockingly close to our noughties decade, that people are somewhat in disbelief that it took so long.

The world is changing and people are becoming more accepting than they were when my parents or I was growing up. I’m 30 years old and still get moments where people say to me, “I don’t think that I have ever met anyone with lesbian parents before”. It is still unusual. My parents were at the forefront of same-sex parenting in the late 80’s. They didn’t know anyone else who was gay or lesbian and had babies. I guess this is where you can say that the times have really changed. Continue reading