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Fed Up Of The Daily Fight To Get Your Child Dressed? These proven techniques will help

By Lorraine Thomas, Parenting Expert

Getting dressed can become a war zone

It’s easy to get into a battle with your child over getting dressed. Fortunately there are a few simple techniques you can use to make this trying time less stressful.

You may think that in this freezing weather everyone would want to wrap up as warmly as possible. But if you have a toddler, you’ll know that once they start learning how to dress themselves – at around two years – there will be times when your little one stubbornly refuses to put on her clothes. Not only that, she may well want to go out in the pouring rain in her shorts and t-shirt … regardless of the temperature! It can be really frustrating for you as a parent – so here are some tips to help you avoid wardrobe wars

 

Avoid the Morning Rush Hour

If your toddler knows you want her to get dressed as quickly as possible, that’s usually the time she’ll take as long as she can. She wants you to know that she has a say in what’s going on in her life – and this is a great way to demonstrate it. It’s also a fact of life that toddlers don’t like change. You can understand why. Your daughter is quite comfortable in her pjs so why would she want to get out of them?

So try to give yourself time rather than rushing towards a deadline. Wake her up a little earlier so that you both have as much time as possible and you can enjoy her dressing routine – not dread it. Her concept of time is different from yours. You may think that 10 minutes will give her lots of time to get dressed. But it doesn’t. You’ve had years of practice, she’ll take much longer than you think even when she’s trying her hardest. Her fingers are enthusiastic – but can act like sausages on the end of her hands. Be realistic about what she can achieve and give her lots of praise when she does. Continue reading

Surviving the Early Morning Rush Hour

Written by Lorraine Thomas

The parent's morning battle field

The morning rush can be a battle field

A couple of days ago, one of my clients, Sarah, was in tears within moments of beginning our coaching session.

Sarah is a senior manager in one of the UK’s leading companies.  She’s responsible for a team of nearly 100 people and very successful at her job, working under pressure to very tight deadlines on a daily basis.

But it wasn’t this that had reduced her to tears .  It was her three and a half year old daughter, Katy.  She said that every morning – between 7.30 and 8.30am – she felt as though she was entering a war zone.

I asked her to tell me what she would ideally like to be happening in that hour, breaking down the time into 15 minute segments.  She was very clear.  She wanted Katy to get dressed without making a fuss and eat her breakfast instead of playing with it.  Most importantly, she wanted to have fun with her and the chance to chat and play before they both went their separate ways.

The reality was very different. Continue reading