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7 Steps To Having The Best of Both Worlds and Succeeding as a Working Mum

By Lorraine Thomas, Parenting Expert

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Juggling work and motherhood is tough – succeeding at both requires giving up on perfection. It doesn’t exist anyway.

As a working mum, you’re on the clock 24/7. It can seem there’s always too much to do … and never quite enough mum to go round. Juggling the demands of career and family is tough. We all have days when we feel we’re failing as a mum and employee. That’s natural.

There’s no such thing as the perfect working mother so give yourself a break. It’s normal to feel guilty and worry – our recent Parent Coaching Academy survey revealed that on average working mums spend between 1 and 2 hours worrying daily and 8/10 mums say they ‘often’ feel guilty. The more you think or talk about feeling tired, guilty stressed or worried, the worse you feel.

Here are my Top Tips to help you get a better life balance.

1) Look after Yourself

When you are looking after yourself, you’re looking after your family. If you are positive and energised, it will impact on all your relationships. A healthy diet, exercise and relaxation will all make a difference. Always eat breakfast, drink plenty of water and get at least 10 minutes fresh air a day. You don’t need the gym – with a child you have your own personal trainer. Take up yoga, meditation or mindfulness.

2) Breathe

Try this ABC .. Acknowledge how you are feeling …. Breathe deeply (at least 10 times) and then Commit to do something practical, within your control, to improve the situation.

3) Have Fun

You can’t be 100% mum all of the time – but you can some of the time and it is these times that are precious. Engage all of your senses and a few minutes can boost your energy. You may not be able to eat with your family or put them to bed every day, but aim to do it at least once a week.

4) Limit Screen Time

Put a boundary around your screen time. Eight out of ten working parents say reducing their own screen time has made a ‘significant’ impact on the quality of family life. So switch off machines, practise leaving the phone unanswered, resist reading texts or emails straight away and think about removing instant messaging.

5) Pause

Pause before you say ‘yes’ at work and at home. Time is like money. You have a limit so decide how to use it. If you have a choice, make sure you are spending time on what matters most.

6) Enjoy More

Do less and enjoy it more! It’s time to take a few short cuts. Cut down on ironing, book a cleaner, shop online and stock up on ready-made meals. Learn to live in the mess.

7) Avoid Multi-Tasking

Avoid multi-tasking. You will be much more productive if you focus on one activity at a time and set yourself a time limit. Focus only on the task at the top of your ‘to do’ list (not at the endless jobs after it!). Decide if you want to do it. Or dump it. Or delegate.

 

Always remember, you’re the Managing Director of the most important company in the world – your family. You deal with health and safety, team-building, budget, strategy, personnel issues, time and crisis management daily.

Take your work skills home with you and your family skills into the office. Go with your gut instinct – mums are usually right. Listen to the advice of people you trust, but ultimately make your own decisions.


lorraine-pic-webLorraine Thomas is the Chief Executive of The Parent Coaching Academy (www.theparentcoachingacademy.com) and author of ‘Brilliantly Behaved Toddler’, ‘Get A Life’, ‘The Mummy Coach’ and ‘The 7-Day Parent Coach’.

She delivers parent coaching workshops to many of the UK’s leading companies.

 

2 thoughts on “7 Steps To Having The Best of Both Worlds and Succeeding as a Working Mum

  1. Thanks Margaret. Glad you found it helpful. You are absolutely right, cutting down on multi-tasking takes time to get used to because we’ve spent years doing it. Research at the Harvard Business School shows that once you manage to crack this though and are mindfully focusing on one task at a time – you are much more creative and productive … and much less stressed. A lot of working mum stress comes from thinking about what has happened in the past and what you have to do or deal with in the future. So learning to live in the moment can have a big impact on the level of stress you feel. Toddlers are brilliant at living in the moment and having absolute determination and focus on having fun – so take a leaf out of their book So good luck and keep at it.

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